Perspectives on Leadership, Strategy & Selling
Love vs. Fear
years ago, a mentor of mine taught me an important lesson; always work
to make the complex as simple as possible. I’ll spare you painful story
leading to the lesson. Regardless, I never forgot the sage advice
gifted to me so long ago.
Life in our complex world can be anything but simple. Running a business is consistently fraught with balancing seemingly incompatible choices. Yet, as executives, we are continually called to make difficult decisions.
How then can life’s grand complexities be reduced to its lowest common denominator? Answer: Know all decisions are grounded in either love or fear.
The more one operates from love, success will eventually flow.
Fear is paralyzing. I’ve felt it. I’m sure you have too. Fear of failing. Fear of being ridiculed or rejected. Fear of not measuring up to the standards of society. Fear, that even through hard work and dedication, one’s passion may become a financial disaster.
This is why entrepreneurs are to be exalted. In the face of substantial fear, they pursue their freedom by becoming their own “boss” and designing their own destiny.
A personal friend of mine is such an entrepreneur. A self-made success on so many levels. Kathy Gardarian, founder and CEO of Qualis International, “has it all.”
In her amazing, recently released book, Feet to the Fire – Finding My Soul in Success, Kathy shares her incredible personal journey with heart-felt transparency and authenticity. Her quest to create success not only in business but in the core of her being exemplifies the challenge and triumph when one fully commits to stretching personally, professionally and spiritually. It takes great courage to bare one’s soul for the benefit of others. Then again, leaders go first.
There are numerous gems offered in this short but compelling read. Here are a few you can put to work right way.
Be Truthful. Be Gentle. Be Fearless – Yes, Gandhi’s words, yet powerful
Be Androgynous – Balance the masculine and feminine energies that lie within you
Be Committed to Your Inner Work – Self-confidence is not an attitude, it’s an inside job. Be willing to work on yourself first. That which you do not like in others is often a direct reflection of something you don’t like about yourself
Be Teachable – A willingness to learn is a prerequisite to personal transformation
Be Love – Lead with love. Business is fundamentally about relationships. For relationships to work, love is always needed
The lowest common denominator in business and in life is a personal choice to come from love or fear. Look around your world. With rare exception, all the negativity, hate, frustration, pain and suffering are rooted in fear.
Be Truthful. Be Gentle. Be Fearless…and be accountable.
Know that Love ultimately conquers all.
The choice is always yours.